What happens when you do the work

“We had tried numerous programs before and really hadn’t seen a lot of impact from the other programs and counseling we’d done over the years. A lot of the other counseling focused on each spouse telling what the other person had done to hurt you. It seemed like we were tattling on each other the whole time instead of fixing what was really broken.”

Jeremy + Kathryn

“We got a gift to go to a big name-brand marriage conference. They weren’t looking to equip you with tools. You can go and get all rah-rah’d up and have a great weekend, but you’re going to go home to the same person you came with.”

Stephen + Alexis

“I liken therapy to trying to clean out your fridge in an hour, really fast, and you’re paying a lot for that short amount of time. CCM I compare to arriving to a clean fridge and getting to go to the grocery store.”

Kyle + Laura

“We had a therapist tell us, I don’t know how you guys make this work. You are not compatible. Past therapies always focused on problems rather than solutions. Focusing on the solution moves us to responsibility faster.”

Nathan + Keshia

“We did try traditional therapy and definitely felt like we were really good at discussing the issue but never really coming up with solutions.”

Caleb + Erin

“What used to be arguments that would blow up and become long, drawn-out events have turned into conversations where we get to understand each other’s perspective, and instead of getting angry, we honor each other for bringing it forward.”

Jared + Mallory

“I had a lot of shame about some of the shortcomings in my life. My husband is a pastor. I had talked to other pastors and other counselors and I wasn’t getting anywhere. When we joined CCM, it’s like the blanket of shame left. I’m not held back anymore by those old wounds that were calling the shots.”

Jonathan + Ashley

“We spend more time in flow with each other as opposed to in conflict with each other.”

Nathan + Keshia

“Our marriage is much more authentic than it ever has been. In the past we were worried about the outcome of conversations. Now we take a lot more responsibility for our own feelings.”

Caleb + Erin

“I just feel so free in our marriage now. I have a real partner who’s going to help me through whatever I’m struggling with, and we come out the other side better than we ever could have imagined.”

Stephen + Alexis

“My personal growth has infiltrated into every area of my life, including my marriage, including my parenting. I’m a way better wife. I’m a way better mom.”

Jonathan + Ashley

“Some of these people you don’t even meet in person and you’re sharing your deepest darkest secrets with them. I’m sharing things with these people that I don’t even share with my best friends, and it’s welcomed with love.”

Nathan + Keshia

“We’ve been married 40 years. We’re probably not their main demographic, but it has meant so much to be part of this. From day one we felt fully embraced.”

Joe + Wendy

“We were really lonely at first as a couple. Our family doesn’t really have healthy marriages, so we didn’t know where to find people to come to in times of need. We felt intimidated because we’re very young.”

Kade + Skylee

“I thought, does everybody know a lot more than me, and am I going to really have a voice here? It was known right from the get-go: the question you’re thinking is either going to be asked, or someone else is already thinking it.”

Kyle + Laura

“You can say something using the language of CCM and couples immediately know what you’re talking about. You don’t have to overexplain. You can just say, this is what’s going on and I’m feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes that’s enough.”

Nathan + Keshia

“It’s near impossible to find a community like that in the whole US.”

Landon + Hunter

“Is where we are what we want to be doing, or are we capable of going higher and better than we have before? It’s levels above levels. It’s removing upper limits and barriers. It’s saying how good can life be, not how do we just make this work for now.”

Nathan + Keshia

“We’re just focused on us. We’re not waiting for catastrophe to happen first before we go and invest the time. And even though we’re not waiting for catastrophe, it’s amazing how much comes up that I don’t even know exists.”

Stephen + Caitlin

“I’ve always felt we had a really great marriage, and I honestly wasn’t sure what we were going to be able to take away. I feel a lot more connected to my spouse, and a lot to continue to level up on.”

Courtney + Alex

“You don’t have to have anything going on in order to come. We’re a pretty new married couple and it’s all about preventative care, taking care of things before they happen.”

Haleigh + James