Marriage Help

Real questions, honest answers

The questions Christian couples ask us most, answered by Austin and Rachel Holt. Biblically based, psychology reinforced.

Why do we keep having the same fight over and over?

Christian couples who keep repeating the same argument are usually not fighting about the topic. Here is what is really happening and how to break the cycle.

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We tried marriage counseling and it didn't work. What now?

If counseling turned into scorekeeping or felt like discussing problems without solving them, you are not alone. Here is why it happens and what works instead.

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What is the difference between Christian marriage coaching and marriage counseling?

A clear comparison of Christian marriage coaching and traditional marriage counseling: format, focus, cost, and which fits your marriage.

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What do I do if my spouse won't work on our marriage?

If your husband or wife is not interested in counseling or coaching, you can still change your marriage. Here is where to start, from a Christian perspective.

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Is marriage supposed to make you happy?

Christian couples often expect marriage to make them happy. A biblical look at happiness vs. holiness in marriage, and why the difference changes everything.

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How do you set healthy boundaries in a Christian marriage?

Boundaries in Christian marriage are not walls. Here is how couples can set clear, loving boundaries with each other, in-laws, work, and church.

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How do we rebuild intimacy in a Christian marriage?

Physical and emotional intimacy often fade in Christian marriages. Here is a faith-based path to rebuilding closeness, honesty, and desire.

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Why does my spouse drive me crazy even though I love them?

Loving your spouse and being triggered by them can both be true. Here is why it happens, from a Christian and psychological perspective, and what to do.

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Where can busy, high-achieving Christian couples get marriage help?

Business owners, pastors, physicians, and other high performers need marriage help that fits their life. Here is what to look for in Christian marriage coaching.

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Where can pastors and ministry couples get marriage help?

Pastors and ministry leaders face unique marriage pressure and few safe places to get help. Here is what ministry couples need and where to find it.

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How do I stop getting offended by everything my spouse says?

If your spouse's words keep landing like insults, the offense usually says as much about an old story in you as about what they said. Here is how to become unoffendable.

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Do Christians need marriage counseling, or is prayer enough?

Prayer matters, and God also gives us people, tools, and practice. Here is a biblical, practical look at praying and doing the work in your marriage.

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I know all the church answers but I'm still anxious. Why?

Knowing the right verses and still feeling anxious is common among committed Christians. Here is why it happens and how it touches your marriage.

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